Lol...had to mention this...
It's funny how some men twist things into something they're not.....
So after a blissful afternoon yesterday, I took my dog out for a walk, had some supper, and then went online to add some pics I took yesterday (included below) and then perused the interweb.....while doing so I came upon this thread https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/when-did-connection-become-a-requirement-for-paid-intimacy.947785/ it is a thread about escorts wanting a "connection" with the men they decide to meet. So That interested me. Since I'm one of those escorts. BUT...as typical to a lot of review board guys, this subject of "connection" was turned into something beyond it's actuality. It was said that some of us require an "emotional connection"...which isn't true. I for one, only want to have sex with men I feel some sort of chemistry with, an attraction, something that connects us and so I'll say I want to meet clients I connect with...... But that certainly doesn't mean we have to be emotionally connected. An emotional connection imo, means I require you to understand me, to value me( which is different to respecting me), to make me feel seen.....Believe me, it's not that deep. I don't need any emotional support from anyone, let alone a client. I do however require you to respect me, my property and my boundaries while we are together, and afterwards, for you to be discreet, by keeping the details of our time together to yourself, just as I will. By respecting me, means you'll handle me and my property as I expect, that no means no, you'll accept my requests without arguing, you'll be quiet while here, you won't be rude, crude, or critical. In other words, you'll act like a gentleman....... When I say I want some sort of connection with those I am intimate with, it means I want to have the right to choose whom I meet and have something I find attractive about them or something in common with them.....And that could be how you speak to me, your respectfulness in your initial contact, your tone of voice, how you respond to my questions, your likes or dislikes, the style of service you like, what you do for a living, etc, etc, etc.... it can mean many things and I know what that is when I feel or hear it. Again, none of that is an emotional connection..... I'm not sure why some of those guys have to grunt about something so obvious, or turn it into something it is not.
I would think an escort who chooses her clients for reasons beyond the $$$$$ only, would be a good thing. Long gone are the days when I'm going to allow every random guy who contacts me, access to my space and my body......yet, according to some, that is not a good thing, lol..... according to those board guys, those escorts who see lots of clients, every types of clients, are bad, and those of us who see few and who are choosy, are also bad.....Honestly, no matter how we do things, it seems escorts will always be critiqued for not doing "it" right or to the satisfaction of someone on some board.....and btw, not having a connection or chemistry with someone is sometimes a reason service will be mediocre, even bad. If there is nothing you like about the person you are intimate with then how can the service provided be great.....But then again, I'm sure there are those who are great actors....Thankfully, I'm not one of them. Here's to connection, chemistry, and liking those I'm intimate with...
To end.... I realize that the initial feeling, that connection doesn't always play out in person as it does over the phone, email or text. Sometimes I don't get it right....and that does sometimes end with a date that wasn't what I or he, had hoped for. Sometimes we just have a bad day, sometimes something happens within a date which changes things. We should all remember that actual intimacy, is a multi layered act, and it's different from just having sex with someone. Some of us want to be intimate, and others just want to bang a hot body or collect as much $$$ as possible. Nothing wrong with any of that. To each his won... Lets be more understanding to all of it. No need to condemn anyone for how they like things, as long as those they are engaging with are aligned to their expectations......
My client from Saturday asked me to wear this...so I did :)
